Halffull left a comment on this blog the other day. He said:
"[T]he community sucks when it comes to deep comfort connection game. Which is why the stuff 'shouldn't work'... it's going into unexplored territory. More information about this stuff is definitely needed."
Before I get into all the details of how Connection Guy seduced me, I want to say a few words about why deep comfort (a/k/a intimacy) matters. Let me put it this way, If you care about having great sex, then you need to care about intimacy.
One reason that I didn't have sex with anyone for such a long time is that I didn't want to have what I call "aluminum sex." That horrible feeling where you just participated in this incredibly intimate act and then afterwards (and sometimes even during) you feel that awful hollow emptiness. For me, that feeling happens when I don't feel fully connected to the other person.
Whereas with Connection Guy ...
By the time we were having sex, I already felt DEEPLY connected to him. Still, I didn't expect what happened. I have heard lots of people TALK about tantric sex and how amazing it is, but I'd never seen even a glimpse of it. Until now.
Let me just say for now that the sex with Connection Guy was amazing. Not because we did any fancy acrobatics or athleticism. Because of the connection. I'm talking about waves of euphoria coming over us, and we were both feeling it at the same time. I'm talking about seeing white light come over my whole field of vision. About being fully present in the moment as if nothing else existed. A sense of being connected to the Divine.
So why should guys care about intimacy? For lots of reasons, and one of them is great sex. :-)