How funny ... yesterday I wrote about feeling someone sending me love. This morning, I feel someone's anger. I'm pretty sure whose it is, too. Which is fine. We needed to clear it from our relationship. Lest we forget, I'm well aware that "anger is always of the ego." That said ... as a woman becomes more congruent and her standard for how she's going to be treated moves progressively upward, sometimes anger is an intermediate phase on the way up the feelings ladder. It's not vengeful anger, it's more like "this is bullshit, and I'm not going to take it anymore" kind of anger.
Speaking of anger, I enjoyed Rori's post today about "friends with benefits," an arrangement that may work for some people but that I personally want no part of in my life because it feels awful. I encourage women to be very clear about what they want and don't want with men, and to communicate clear "nos" to what they don't want.
Now ... on to today's report. So back in early March, I attended Mehow's 10SSA SuperConference. 10SSA, for those who are not familiar, stands for "10 second sexual attraction." The conference was packed, in part because it had both regular students and guys from Mehow's instructor program.
Through no fault of Mehow's, I ended up being a little less present for that weekend than I have for other conferences. This was because I lost my wallet on the airplane and arrived in Vegas with one dollar to my name, no credit cards, nothing. After having the taxi driver threaten to call the police and a big drama just to get a hotel room for the night, I was a little preoccupied and basically out of commission until my friend Matrix Guy had the brilliant idea of taking a personal check down to the casino. I had forgotten that, this being Vegas, and I being in a casino ... OF COURSE they would find a way to get me cash. Lol :-)
There's a happy ending to this story, for those of you who think there are no honest people in the world. After I got back to San Francisco, Southwest Airlines called to let me know that they not only had my wallet, but also that it had all the cash still in it. Talk about good karma :-) I do my best to be honest with people, and I find that this creates amazing amounts of good karma coming right back at me.
So back to the conference ... here are some things I really liked:
* First of all, I really like Mehow's book, which is entitled, not surprisingly, Ten Second Sexual Attraction. It's a real book, for those who are weary of e-books (which I am, so am considering converting my upcoming e-book into a series of videos instead). Mehow's book is well-organized, easy-to-read with big print, and (appropriately) physically attractive. He has a good mix of theory and actual samples of dialogue.
One of my favorite lines in the whole book is in the section on Friends: "If you have men in your life that aren't on a path to enlightenment you will have to let them go and find new ones. Note that very few men are on the path to enlightenment." What I love about this is Mehow's recognition that this whole "seduction" business is really a path to enlightenment (which only a few people seem to recognize), but he just slides it into the middle of the book with no fanfare. Nice.
* The speakers I saw were great. DJ Fuji always does a nice job. I also got to see El Topo and Kamouflage speak for the first time. They were all great. I missed a lot of the other speakers though, due to the wallet issue and timing of airplane flights.
* Mehow's introduction used quite a bit of actual video footage in which he was picking up on an actual girl. The footage was effective and made the presentation more lively. I also like that Mehow likes sassy girls! ;-) Not only that, he said "I'm bored of hot girls." Amen. I love it when a guy is evolved enough to recognize that what really intrigues him about a woman longer term has nothing to do with looks.
* One of my favorite aspects of the SuperConference is that Mehow and the other instructors actually took the guys out. Frankly, I've had enough of seminars with gurus talk talk talking. I would like to see way more live action cuz I think guys learn better that way. Plus, the instructors need to walk their talk.
So Mehow set up a private room with bottle service at one of the clubs, and this ended up giving the guys a fun home base for attracting women. Meanwhile, the instructors were out on the dance floor with the guys helping them open sets. In my view, this is the way the business should be run. A bunch of the guys ended up having success with women THAT night. Including a few lays.
Business-wise, I also want to put in a plug for Mehow's win/win attitude. He seems to be one of the few in the business who has recognized that we all achieve more success by helping each other (linking each other's blogs, sharing articles, inviting each other to events, etc.). I'd like to see more of that attitude prevailing in the community at large.
Ok, I'm out of time for now ... see you all soon.