Ok, everyone, spoiler alert. If you haven't seen Woody Allen's fabulous Spanish romance, Vicky Cristina Barcelona (VCB), you may want to go out and see it before reading this post.
I must give credit here to Terrance Thames. I was staying with him in Los Angeles when I went down for Hristiyan's workshop, and he introduced me to this movie, which I had never heard of before. Terrance told me that guys who are not in the community are dismissive of VCB and think it's just a "chick flick." Whereas guys who are aware realize that this is a movie to study and emulate :-) Haha.
Notice how the women are attracted to Juan Antonio because he is a LOVER of women. He doesn't "do" a whole lot in the movie. Yes, he does some great "inviting" (Zan Perrion style) and he does some great "leading" (giving the girls a tour of the town). He gets them all charged up with adrenaline from the very beginning (Motorcycle Guy style) by taking them for a dangerous ride in his tiny airplane.
But most of what he does is appreciate women. Plus he has a big sense of compassion. He's mostly being and listening and touching and experiencing, rather than doing (which distinguishes him from Vicky's husband-to-be, for example, who is rather frenetic and very focused on which neighborhood their new house will be in). Juan Antonio has a very calming, centered presence.
There are some amazing scenes in the movie that I may write more about in future blog posts. Some fabulous inviting, some fabulous leading, some fabulous masculine vulnerability and authenticity. Mmmmm....
Anyway, VCB has one of the hottest triads (man and two women) ever to grace the silver screen, and I have to admit that I was pretty disappointed when it broke up. After all, Cristina really was the missing ingredient that made an otherwise unworkable coupling viable again.
Which leads me to the questions to ponder today:
* Can a triad ever be permanently viable in real life?
* Or will one person end up feeling dissatisfied and unfulfilled and leave the scene?
* Deep in her heart, does every woman long to have a man (or woman) who is devoted to her and only her?