This post is about letting go ... of beliefs and values that no longer serve us.
I've been promising Part 2 of the "Why I don't like condoms" post for a while.
Last night, Johnny and I were watching George Lopez and Jennifer Lopez in Out of Sight. (A movie every aspiring PUA must watch. The sexual tension is so hot.)
I already set the record straight about the original condom post during my interview with Barry Kirkey (Episode 84, it's available again to watch this weekend), but Johnny said I needed to write another, clarifying post to make sure everyone knows what I really meant.
I wasn't giving anyone advice. I trust other people to make their own choices.
I was sharing my own personal experience. I don't like condoms. I don't like how they feel, I don't like how they make it easy not to communicate about the real issues. I don't like doing things halfway. It's way too easy to use a condom and not make sure both people are clear about what they want out of the encounter. That all too often leads to misunderstandings and strife.
It does feel amusing that publicly I've been lambasted about that post, and privately people take me aside and say, "I don't like them either. Sex really does feel much more intimate without them." Etc.
What I'm holding out for is a guy who's willing to go all the way with me. That means no condoms, no pulling out, no BS. An intention of continuity. If I get pregnant, so be it. It's not going to happen unless it's meant to happen. I'll sign a waiver absolving him of any and all obligations to me, because I would never want to receive anything from anyone out of a sense of obligation. I only want to receive what men want to give me with their whole hearts.
"Love is freedom. To look for it by placing yourself in bondage is to separate yourself from it. ... As you release, so will you be released."
Otherwise, I love my abstinence. It feels uncomplicated and free.
I'm not giving advice. I trust other people to make their own choices. There might even be situations where, if I were having sex (which I'm not), I might use them for their placebo effect. I'm only inviting people to consider the possibility that condoms, when used as a defense, actually reinforce the possibility of sickness in the mind.
Thought creates everything we see. Sickness is created and healed in the mind. When we refuse to see the possibility of sickness anymore, sickness will disappear.
"In my defenselessness my safety lies."
Meanwhile, for those who wonder why I'm so provocative sometimes with my posts, consider this: the only way to make our belief systems fully conscious and bring them back under our conscious control is to prod unconscious fears to the surface to be cleared. Provocation is extremely useful for that purpose. When we take conventional wisdom as a given without questioning it, we are giving our power away.
"To learn this course requires willingness to question every value that you hold."