Because our Word is very powerful, I rewrote an article that I published last year, and you can find the new version on Spiritual Seduction here.
Although I have previously lived in a Glass House on this issue, it has become increasingly obvious to me over the past year how important it is that we make a commitment to stay connected to the people in our lives even when things get messy or rough or painful. I am therefore making this commitment to all of my relationships, and I expect the same in return. This has now become a non-negotiable for me.
Disconnection is the symbol of our separation from God. Disconnection is weakness, not strength. I am no longer willing to tolerate it in any area of my life. This means a prior agreement with any potential romantic partner to do completion work, no matter how things turn out between us.
I have zero interest in fleeting relationships. I now declare that my relationships are so strong, they weather any storm and last forever.
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What storm? Arent all storms just fignments of perception anyway?
What how would completion work go down? What would you do exactly?
Also, how do you go about getting someone to agree in the first place?
Thanks - Lisa
One of the most brilliant things I've seen in relationships comes from my friend Jesse, who always connects his current girlfriend with his former girlfriends. They are all given each other's phone numbers and encouraged to speak and share with each other.
This is brilliant because what we leave behind us follows... no one can be swept under the carpet... and our past relationships are with us anyways unless we've done a lot of truth telling and healing.
Except in cases with someone who is ACTUALLY so fragmented that contact might be dangerous, and I say this carefully because of what the ego will do to make someone else out to be the fragmented one... if we tell the truth about it on our own, we cannot help but find the purest form of love for the other person.
I'm not sure how exactly to work with this in my own life now but I do feel like there are at least 2 people I want to get in touch with and bring to light whatever can be received by them 4 years and 16 years later.
There is a myth that says I should let them contact me but I think it takes me being the one to reach out to bring these disconnected parts of myself back for the love they wanted to feel in the first place.
Thanks for bringing this up
~Gayla
Sorry for posting this here, but I can't comment on your other blog, but you linked to it in this post so here goes:
Regarding Marriage proposals, I believe people were telling you the wrong thing. They should have been telling you, or rather, asking you the reverse: Would you, Erika, be willing to marry a guy if you have not slept with him yet?
Similarly, would you, Erika, be willing to marry a guy if you have not been dating him for a year to two years, experiencing each other over a variety of conditions?
I'm not discounting those marriage proposals and their relation to your vibe being more present and relaxed. However, to give yourself the best chance of actually accepting one of those proposals, you might consider your own answers to these questions.
I went over to your post in Spiritual Seduction and I read this one... this is commonly spoken in workshops here in the Bay Area and I feel this is a hard one for me to get behind... You write, * We are never responsible for each other’s feelings. You are not the “cause” of my feelings. If I am sad or scared, it’s because of something in me, not anything you did. Always. I want for you to be 100% guilt-free, always and forever, no matter what happens with us."
I'm going to write my own post on this one because from a place of oneness, I see this very differently... I see feelings as often mutually arising... not always but this feels like a spiritual bypass on some levels... it is not about blaming another person either for feelings when they arise but about how to connect with feelings from the place of being in a union with another person...
I'm still doing my own research but I can say that I've noticed how negative feelings from someone and good feelings of love and connection come to me and I feel them... so I can't say that sadness and so on is totally, "my feeling" separate of another person.
What do you think/feel about this one?
~Gayla
Gayla,
wow, thank you for prodding me further about the Letter for Liberating relationships post. I feel so grateful and am going to write another post about it.
I realize that I have not been asking the Universe for what I *really* want. That's about to change.
Love,
Erika
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