In the past few weeks, you may have noticed I've broken pretty much every rule and dating taboo in the book.
I get a LOT of emails from guys (and girls) asking me for advice about this situation or that situation. Most of them are looking for rules. A rule they can "apply" to tell them "what to do."
I understand the longing for rules. We think somehow if there is a "formula" for life, then we will have "figured it out." We'll be safer. We'll get predictable results. Etc.
It doesn't work that way. You can follow other people's advice and systems until the end of time and not have any real success. You can follow other people's advice and hold yourself back from doing what's really in your heart to do. You can follow other people's advice (everyone has a different opinion, so good luck following them all) until you've over-thought yourself into total and complete mental gridlock.
And you'll end up even more frustrated than when you started.
You'd be better off making your own rules.
I hear guys saying, "oh, I can't do that. she'll think I'm needy."
Who gives a rat's ass what she thinks. What do YOU want to do?
Or how about "I can't do it. I'm stuck in my pathetic story."
Well, then emulate Edward the Vampire from Twilight. He's as stuck as you can be in his dark story, and it's not stopping him from getting the girl.
Do you have any idea how refreshing it is to be around that rare individual who is acting from their own authentic center instead of censoring themselves worrying what YOU might think of them?
I didn't start receiving multiple marriage proposals (most of them coming out of the blue sky, by the way, with no cultivation or intention whatsoever on my part) until I started breaking all the fucking rules and doing things entirely by intuition.
I trust intuition will get me the rest of the way Home.
Fuck the rules. Fuck conventional wisdom.
Try following your heart today. It knows what to do.
Fritz just got up on the counter and lapped up all of the froth from the milk I had prepared for my morning hazelnut cappuccino. Notice that he is not following any rules ... I love him anyway :-)
In this photo, notice Fritz's apparent lack of concern that he broke the rules: