A Testimonial About Healing Heartbreak

I was going to wait until tomorrow to post this letter from a male EFT client, but I feel so touched by it that I want to share it now :-)

So here goes:

I had an EFT phone session with Erika to deal with a heartbreak over a relationship ending. When we started the call, I was just deeply depressed and feeling hopeless about my history with women and my prospects at any future romance. She started by asking questions about my story and listened actively and patiently as I tried to pinpoint what it was I was actually struggling with about my breakup. At every point in the conversation, she was compassionate, patient, and present with me.

We started the EFT process and headed into some pretty intense (but long forgotten) events from my childhood. She helped to bring to light how I have been reliving the same harmful patterns in my life with women that started when I was a child. It was rough, with lots of tears and difficult realizations, but Erika created a safe place for me to explore these issues and we tapped through it until I felt lighter, clearer, and more hopeful. In the days that followed our session, I found myself feeling more and more hopeful that I could finally let go of these life long patterns. I have more work to do and will continue tapping myself but I really feel I made some powerful breakthroughs during my call with Erika.

I HIGHLY recommend trying EFT phone work with Erika. Her focus and expertise coupled with her compassion and intuition make her a wonderful EFT practitioner and she is uniquely qualified to help with dating/relationship issues. I know I will be back to work with her again.

Thanks Erika!

-M
Seattle, WA

Thank you, M, for sharing that with me.

Marshall Rosenberg, the founder of Non-Violent Communication, says that one of the greatest human needs is to contribute to other people's well-being. I feel very happy that I contributed to yours :-)

How Abstinence Serves Me

Gamer left a comment on an earlier post. He asked "how does celibacy serve you now?"

I responded to his comment and then realized this actually deserves its own post.

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How does celibacy serve me now?

It's helping me become congruent.

The next guy I have sex with I fully expect to give me a 100% reliable lifetime commitment. I take ownership for that by saying no to sex with any man who's not offering me that with complete conviction (and of course it needs to be mutual -- we choose each other).

From ACIM: "Do you want freedom of the body or of the mind? For both you cannot have."

I choose freedom of the mind, it is the only real freedom.

I'm not interested in "sex for fun." Because uncommitted sex isn't fun for me. It's painful. I'm interested in sex as an expression of deep, permanent connection and intimacy.

Men who are not offering what I want may as well not even try with me. They won't get anywhere. And yes the decision to be with me permanently must be made beforehand. This "let's just see what happens" is bullshit and a recipe for chaos and pain. It is an expression of incongruence and uncertainty, and it always leads to pain.

I look at how men live their lives. If a man is living his life incongruently, and for example, has left a trail of pain behind him, I am not attracted to him. He has a lot of work to do on himself before he will have the capacity to be a good partner. I used to be attracted to men like that because they mirrored me, but now the attraction to pain is gone.

When I am fully congruent, the man who comes to my doorstep will be congruent also. Our love for each other will be so certain that there will be no doubt.

I am waiting for that certainty, because in certainty there is no pain. Certainty is achieved through congruence. Congruence is achieved by erasing every doubt about oneself. When it is fully achieved, there is no pain and only joy.

That is how abstinence serves me.

Are you connecting ... or categorizing?

One of the many things that happened along the way for me on this journey is that I stopped asking or answering certain types of questions. Examples:

* Where did you grow up?
* Where did you go to school?
* What do you do for your day job?
* How old are you?
* Which neighborhood do you live in?

It's a little humorous because for many people, their idea of conversation IS these questions. If you took these questions away from them, they would literally be speechless. They'd have no idea what to say. And THAT is the problem.

If I ask someone that entire series of interview-style questions, what have I really learned about them that I can connect with, AT AN EMOTIONAL LEVEL? Unless that person is skillful enough to translate dead questions into living answers, I have learned ... Nothing. Absolutely nothing.

I don't ask these questions because the answers don't tell me anything about the human being in front of me. I don't answer these questions because they feel off-putting. When people ask questions like this, it feels like they are on auto-pilot, asleep at the wheel. It feels like I'm going to be categorized rather than connected with. I'm not interested in being put in a box. I'm not interested in filling silences with dead, polite words.

If you want your conversations to wake up, try shifting to an entirely different plane:

* How are you feeling right now? (better than "How are you?," which if asked sincerely is a great question, but for most people is such a throwaway that it's better to use different language)
* What is your life passion?
* Where do you want to travel that you've never been, and what intrigues you about that place?
* What would your life look like if you could design it any way you wanted?
* What is your biggest frustration right now?
* What motivated you to come here today/tonight? What intrigues you about this place/event?

See how quickly each of these questions will get you into a genuinely interesting, deeply connected conversation, even with a stranger?

Why Most Dating Advice Does Not Work, Part 3 ... Seducing the Subconscious Mind is the Key to Getting What You Want

People are curious about my approach to coaching because it's so different from everything else that is being offered.

Most bootcamps and seminars are focusing primarily on Outer Game: telling people what to say and what to do to get different results. Some of these programs are wonderful and very worthwhile. There is something very effective about embodied experiences like bootcamps where a guy is essentially "borrowing" the confidence of the instructor for a night or a weekend.

But I predict that you will make faster progress with my method. Much faster progress. In fact, I specialize in the "impossible" cases. The guys (or gals) who have tried everything, and nothing worked.

Most bootcamps and seminars proceed from the premise of "adding information." They work fantastically for some people, especially the ones who only needed a little jolt of confidence.

But for those who already have layers and layers of mental "static," adding another layer of learning and complexity is only going to make things worse. It'll just be another stick they can use to beat themselves up with.

My approach proceeds from the premise that you already know everything. Your subconscious mind is hooked up to the Infinite Intelligence and -- quite literally -- has access to all knowledge all the time. This is why intuition is so powerful. When it's operating properly, it is far more powerful and efficient than the fastest supercomputer ever created. And it has "emotional intelligence."

So if you already know everything, why would I need to teach you anything? I don't. What I do is help you remove the layers of clutter that are stopping you from realizing that you already know everything.

Does anyone really believe that every man wasn't born with the innate ability to seduce a woman, have an amazing relationship, and live a life of abundance? Oh yes, he was born with it. If it's not manifest now, it's still there. It may be buried under so many layers of garbage as to be unrecognizable, but it's still there.

I help you find it.

I do this by opening up space.

I do this by helping you begin to question and then to dissolve all the limiting beliefs.

Limiting beliefs FEEL true, and as long as they FEEL true, they will stop you from getting what you want. But they're not true. And in truth you are so powerful that, even if those limiting beliefs looked like massive stone walls, you can walk right through them as if they were nothing.

Because they are nothing.

The key to dissolving limiting beliefs is enlisting the help of our all-powerful subconscious mind. Yet most people do not have a good relationship with it at all. They've been running away from the Shadow Self for so long that it's terrifying to turn around and lift the lid on all the suppressed darkness.

And that is what we must do. We are actually seducing the subconscious mind. And, just as with seducing a woman, the worst thing we can do is push against its resistance. The subconscious mind wants to be heard. It wants to be understood. It wants to be known.

Then it will be on our side. It will help us.

We need to explore all the GOOD reasons why your subconscious mind is sabotaging your efforts to date the women (or men) you want to date. I assure you, it has very good reasons. It is trying (misguidedly, perhaps) to protect you. Bashing it over the head for doing that is only going to make things worse.

This is why I don't do what I see some other coaches doing, for example, some do "takeaways" with the subconscious mind. "I'm not even going to talk to you when you're being like this." Really? What kind of unconditional love is that? How is the subconscious mind going to trust me if I do that?

What if I listen instead? Listen without judging.

Think of my approach to coaching as Matrix 3 (the Matrix trilogy, by the way, is essentially plotted along the lines of the prophecy of salvation in A Course in Miracles). Remember how they are fighting, fighting, fighting, and the more they fight, the more machines come to attack them? Remember how Neo is fighting Agent Smith, and Smith keeps replicating?

Fighting the Shadow Self is very similar. If we beat it up, it becomes stronger. It hates us. It gets angry. It will sabotage us at every turn.

And then Neo finally gets it. He finally understands that the key is to stop fighting and become One with Agent Smith.

That's what we're doing with EFT coaching. We are merging with the "Dark Side" by hearing it out in a non-judging way. Thus the constant repetition in EFT of "Even though I have this problem, I love and accept myself completely."

And then, just like in Matrix 3, our life gradually transforms into a Paradise. It starts with a small clearing in the wasteland. Then, if we keep at it, the clearing turns into a luscious meadow. We find ourselves inviting other people in, to play with us in our new meadow. We teach them EFT, their meadow starts to grow and merges with ours.

It's a magical process. I hope you will join me.

Updates and Burning Man ... to Have Sex or Not to Have Sex? That is the Question.

1. In Field EFT: Tonight I coached two guys in field using EFT. Good stuff. I love how by the end of one of these tapping-in-public sessions, we move into this trance-like space. It's as if the entire venue has slowed down, everything in slow motion, space between the thoughts, where there was only chatter before. And of course by then the guy has stopped caring what anyone thinks about him and is merrily tapping on his own head in public. This I love, because in this moment is the realization -- even if only subconsciously -- that humiliation is impossible when we stop caring what anyone thinks. (Read that sentence again - it's profound. :-)

2. PUA Summit. Who is going to PUA Summit ? If you are going and would like to share a hotel room with me and my girlfriend, then please email me at erika.awakening@gmail.com. Is she hot? Of course. I have a thing for hot Eastern European women, especially ones who have a wonderful mischievous vibe. What can I say?

3. Burning Man.

As I mentioned before, I'll be teaching a free two-hour workshop at Evolutionary Temple, near Center Camp, on Friday, Sept. 4, from 6-8 pm.

Now, as a testament to how powerful EFT is, a couple of months ago, I tapped on "only want to go to Burning Man if I'm going with a guy." I did this because last year I went by myself, and although I had an amazing time and met a whole bunch of NEW guys, this year I wanted a different experience. I wanted to go WITH a guy. Or I didn't want to go at all. But I had signed up for Burning Man, and my partner for the trip had not materialized.

Until today. When a guy I met about a year ago suggested we go together and spend a romantic night in Reno on the way.

Whoa Nellie. Be careful what you ask for because you just might get it.

There was a long texting pause (on my end). He said he sensed my hesitation. He was cool about it but wanted to know what my reservations were.

And as I simmered with it today, I realized that my reservations are mostly the shadows of past hesitations, like empty shells with the content long gone.

"But I don't want to have sex. I'm not having sex."

Those words came up, and I realized they had lost a lot of their power. I used to say them so powerfully, and now they sound kinda like ... I don't know ... like that was a story I told myself somewhere along the way in a time I can't put myself into anymore.

This is how EFT heals. It takes all the oomph out of our negatively charged stories. Then they collapse by themselves.

(But don't go getting any ideas, Burning Man Guy. Lol. I'm STILL not having sex with you.)

It just feels softer now than it used to, when I say that.

:-)

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Why Most Dating Advice Does Not Work, Part II: A New Model for Dating & Relationship Coaching

Part I of this article is here.

"Be really whole and all things will come to you." - The Tao

I want to go a little deeper into why most dating advice doesn't work ... and indeed why the traditional concept of "dating advice" is fundamentally flawed.

Here is a word that gets bandied around a lot: CONGRUENCE.

In the seduction community, people talk a lot about guys being "congruent" when they approach women.

But what the heck does congruence actually mean? And even if we understand what it means, how do we get people to be congruent?

To me, congruence means unified intent and action. It means that all the voices in our head are integrated, so that our intention and our thoughts about ourselves are fully consistent with our chosen words or actions. Congruence is also a feeling. I know when I am "congruent" because I feel a sense of ease, confidence, and spontaneity. When I am congruent, I speak and act without hesitation. There is no "thinking" beforehand, and there is no "emotional hangover" where I beat myself up or analyze what I did afterwards.

To take a really basic example, say that I want a cappuccino in the morning but I'm out of coffee beans. As soon as I realize that I don't have a key ingredient, I'll instantly form the intention to drive down to Starbucks and get a cappuccino, and to pick up a pound of Verona beans while I'm there. I'll then do this. I don't sit there and bang my head against the wall worrying that Starbucks might not serve me. I don't worry about what I'm going to say to the barista to get this task accomplished. I just go and do it, and after my mission is complete, unless something really unusual happened, I don't think about Starbucks again until the next time I need coffee.

The problem for many people who are seeking dating advice is that something that is as normal and natural as breathing (social interactions) has become fraught with "thinking" and "analysis." I can no longer strike up a conversation with a stranger at Whole Foods on impulse because, if I'm a woman for example, I have been told always to let men approach me. I'm convinced that if I ever open my mouth around a man who didn't speak to me first, then I've become the "masculine energy" in the relationship. Wow, I'm way up in my head and haven't even opened my mouth yet. The guy has disappeared, an opportunity to connect with my world is gone forever, and I'm still spinning in my head. At least I didn't become the "masculine energy" in the relationship because ... well, now there is no relationship. Egads!

Whereas if I can lightly breeze through my life, doing whatever comes to me spontaneously, I may strike up a conversation over the tomatoes, go about my business, have forgotten all about the guy by the time I'm finished shopping, and then as I'm on my way out the exit, he stops me and asks me out. Do I feel like the "masculine energy" then? No, I've opened up the possibility of connection, and I still get to be a girl.

Why is dating advice often part of the problem? If you think about it, most dating advice -- there are exceptions, which I'll get to later -- is problematic because of what it is. Instead of going within and consulting the infinite wisdom of our intuition, advice seekers are going outside of themselves and hoping to find answers. Advice seekers don't have access to their own intuition, or don't trust it, for a variety of reasons, usually relating to internal fragmentation. They have a bunch of internal voices yapping at them, and they don't know which one to follow. I call this "the inner committee." The inner committee goes something like this:

Voice #1: You should go approach that girl. Why are you just sitting here like a numbskull?

Voice #2: Yeah, but I can't. She'd never be attracted to me.

Voice #3: You're probably right. Look what happened when you tried to approach that girl last night. Wow, you made a real idiot out of yourself.

Voice #4: You are such a coward. Do you think anything is ever going to change for you if you sit here all night looking stupid? You need to man up.

And so forth. I don't know how anyone would be able to hear their intuition with this cacophony going on.

So, with such internal chaos, this person goes to a guru for answers. This person asks for advice. The guru gives advice, and it's advice that would probably work for the guru. But it won't work for the advice seeker, nine times out of ten. Why? Because the guru's voice will just be added to the inner committee, in an unintegrated way, and there will only be further chaos in the advice seeker's mind.

To give an extreme example, I have worked with guys in the community who have already been to see every single guru. And yet, their love lives have not improved. These guys are drowning in internal chaos. Each guru's advice, standing alone, in an integrated mind, might work very well. But in the minds of these students, they now have 20 different gurus talking at them, and each guru is advising something slightly different. So then the internal "inner committee" conversation goes like this:

Voice #1: You should approach that girl. You've already waited too long. Guru #1 said to approach within three seconds.

Voice #2: Yeah, but Guru #2 said to approach only when I really feel something authentic toward a girl, and right now I don't see anything I'm authentically interested in about this girl.

Voice #3: Wow, you are a stupid f*cker. Don't you remember that Guru #3 said, if you can't find something to appreciate about every woman you see, you have a serious problem? Man, you are a loser.

And so forth. Okay, this guy is going to get nowhere. He's going to be stuck, forever, in emotional and analytical gridlock, unless someone can help him integrate all the advice he has received from a thousand different sources, into ONE UNIFIED CONGRUENT VOICE.

How do I know all this? Because this is what happened to me. Yes, my love life was not working six years ago, and yes, I did need help. But unfortunately, the help I found at the beginning, in the form of dating advice, did not help. It made things much worse because my internal belief system only became more fragmented. None of the advice books really agreed with each other, so after each action I took, I was second-guessing myself ... and third-guessing myself ... and fourth-guessing myself.

And it is that very second-guessing and analyzing THAT IS THE PROBLEM. Even if we've already sent a perfectly fine e-mail, the moment that we go up in our head second-guessing ourselves, we have DISCONNECTED from ourselves and from the other person. And the other person will feel it and will also feel disconnected.

Now we come to the worst advice of all. If I were to leave you with this advice, I would only be adding to your problems. The advisor recognizes that second-guessing is the problem, and says "You have to stop second-guessing yourself."

Oh really? How? You've just given me advice that is going to make me analyze and judge myself EVEN MORE.

See how this only compounds the problem? We have a new member of the inner committee, folks. Now we have an additional voice that beats us up and says: "Damn you. Guru #4 said to stop second-guessing yourself. Why can't you do anything right?"

Are you ready to step off the hamster wheel? Are you ready to do something that actually works?

This is why I use energy healing with my clients. I'm not interested in piling on more advice, except in rare instances when my intuition speaks up and says it's the right thing to do in the moment.

What I do with my clients is a completely different process. I find out what are all the unaligned voices in his or her head by interviewing him or her. My job is to listen, and to notice connections where I see them. And then I use Emotional Freedom Technique to go through each of the voices, make sure they all get heard, and follow intuition where that leads us.

In the process, the many voices become the One Voice. This is how you become congruent. I don't give advice in the traditional sense. I help my clients reconnect to their own intuition. And this is how they will start knowing what to say and do in every situation without having to think about it beforehand, and without second-guessing themselves afterwards.

My role is as a Guide. I help guide you back to yourself, which is where the answers were all along.

If you're interested in working with me, go here.

Happy Tuesday, everyone.

xoxo,
Erika

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You are God incarnate ...

Start acting like it :-)

For those who don't believe in God, I am reminded of something Wayne Dyer said. "It doesn't matter what you call it. You can call it God, you can call it Dog." It's the Divine energy that connects us all to each other.

It doesn't matter what you call it.

Another excerpt from A Course in Miracles, which is a life-changing book:

The Thought of God surrounds your little kingdom, waiting at the barrier you built, to come in and shine upon the barren ground. See how life springs up everywhere! The desert becomes a garden, green and deep and quiet, offering rest to those who lost their way, and wander in the dust. Give them a place of refuge, prepared by love for them, where once a desert was. And every one you welcome will bring love with him, from Heaven for you. They enter one by one into this holy place, but they will not depart as they had come, alone.

The love they brought with them will stay with them, as it will stay with you. And, under its beneficence, your little garden will expand, and reach out to everyone who thirsts for living water, but has grown too weary to go on alone. Go out and find them, for they bring your Self with them. And lead them gently to your quiet garden, and receive their blessing there. So will it grow, and stretch across the desert, leaving no lonely little kingdoms locked away from love, and leaving you outside. And you will recognize yourself, and see your little garden gently transformed into the Kingdom of Heaven, with all the love of its Creator shining upon it.

The holy instant is your invitation to love, to enter into your bleak and joyless kingdom, and transform it into a garden of peace and welcome. Love's answer is inevitable. It will come, because you came without the body, and interposed no barriers which would interfere with its glad coming. In the holy instant, you ask of love only what it offers everyone, neither less nor more. Asking for everything, you will receive it. And your shining Self will lift the tiny aspect that you tried to hide from Heaven, straight into Heaven. No part of love calls on the whole in vain. ...

You have reached the end of an ancient journey not realizing yet that it is over. You are still worn and tired, and the desert's dust still seems to cloud your eyes, and keep you sightless. Yet He Whom you welcomed has come to you, and would welcome you. He has waited long to give you this. Receive it now of Him, for He would have you know Him. Only a little wall of dust still stands between you. Blow on it lightly and with happy laughter, and it will fall away. And walk into the garden love has prepared for both of you.

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If you're curious to know some of the steps I took in getting to where I am now, including the coaches and healers who taught me and how I got drawn back to the Course, I created a page at the new website with more details. It is fully my intention to revolutionize the dating and relationship industry with this knowledge.

Breaking the "Rules" and Speaking My Truth

There's something I've been noticing about the dating and relationship industry. Once people become coaches, they rarely -- if ever -- share their own personal challenges with you. Has anyone else noticed this?

It's almost like there is this unwritten rule that, to be a coach or a healer, one must pretend that one's own life is already perfect. Otherwise, how can we have any credibility to coach other people?

But this often leads to a lifelessness in the coach or healer's writing. To read some websites, you'd think the author (if male) does nothing other than bang "10s" every night of the week and feels deeply fulfilled by doing so. Yet the writing lacks a certain authenticity, at least from where I sit. Some coaches may, sadly, be self-censoring anything in their own current experience that would deeply resonate with everyone else, for fear of what others would think of them, for fear of showing weakness. Or they'll write with passion about "other people's" problems without acknowledging their own.

Sometimes it seems we have forgotten that the teacher and the student are always one and the same.

I'm very consciously going to continue to break this unwritten rule on this blog. I personally am not buying it. Every coach and healer I know -- while having much to offer their students -- could also be living their own life even more full-out than they already are. Every single one has a truckload of limiting beliefs. And every single one of them still has moments of anger, disappointment, and frustration.

The reason I can help people is that I taught myself how to go from utter despair to a very high level of empowerment, and I know how to teach other people to do the same. I'm not going to sit here and pretend to be perfect. To the extent that challenges continue to appear, I consider each and every one of them to be an opportunity to learn more about how belief systems operate, how our past is dampening the present moment, and how to clear that crap out so that the present moment continues to feel more and more glorious.

But today I feel angry. I feel lividly angry.

I feel angry that my parents didn't know what the f*ck they were doing. I feel angry that the energy I grew up around was so toxic that it made it difficult for me to let people get close to me. I feel angry with my mother for not dealing with her own issues before having children. I feel angry when I hear what other people had to tolerate as children. It's no wonder they feel powerless now.

I feel furious that so many of us have been living under a shroud of guilt our entire lives, constantly being forced to conform to a system of "clock time" and minute rules and regulations that make little, if any, sense.

I feel angry that so many of us are scared to be fully honest, for fear of being punished, disgraced, or judged.

I feel livid that, when we incarnated here, we did such a good job of pulling the wool over our own eyes, that many people are still blindly suffering. It's all made up, this world we live in, it's a virtual reality that can be changed by changing our subconscious beliefs. But most people are still living as its victim, with no hope and seeing no way out, and I feel sad that we haven't reached everyone yet, to tell them the good news that the nightmarish Dream is almost over.

I feel rage remembering that the Buddha said "life is suffering," as if there's nothing we can do about it but emotionally detach. I see in my coaching work what has happened to people who emotionally detached. They're still carrying around tons of negative emotions, but the feelings are suppressed down so far that they are not even able to access them.

I feel angry with people who say "love is painful." Love is not meant to be painful, and I feel angry at the idea that we're just supposed to accept that as some sort of excuse for inexcusable things.

I feel tired of living life the same old way and ready for something really amazing and new, and I feel frustrated with how stubborn some subconscious patterns can be. The ego is an expert at resisting change.

Now that I got all that anger out, I feel sad. I'm going to take a moment to feel my sadness.

Ok, I'm back. I still feel sad, but now feelings of gratitude are coming in, too.

I feel grateful for everyone who has supported this blog since I started it nearly a year ago. I feel appreciative of all the comments, the emails, and the invitations that have poured in.

I feel amazed that every single time I post on here or Facebook asking for help with technology or marketing or anything else, I receive a flood of helpful suggestions and volunteers.

I feel thrilled that I broke a life-long pattern of thinking "I'm not the entrepreneur type" and that I finally have a rapidly growing coaching practice. I feel thrilled to know I am helping people change their lives quickly and that others won't have to go through the long process of struggle and frustration that I did.

I feel grateful for the Divine Guidance that I have received every single day since my near-death experience, and especially over the past year.

I am excited to see what happens over the next year. It is fully my intention to revolutionize the dating and relationship industry with the knowledge I've gained over the past five years. It's going to be amazing :-)

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More importantly, this event is simply not to be missed. Not only will you get to meet yours truly in person (what could be more enticing than that? ;-), I'll be speaking on a "New Blood" Panel including Marni Wing from The Wing Girl Method, Adonis from the Charming Rogue, and many others.

Did I mention you can sign up here? :-)

I will make some time over the PUA Summit weekend (Sept. 26-27) to do some Introductory EFT (tapping) sessions with a limited number of guys. If you want to be one of my One-Hour Miracles, then you can sign up for a private one-on-one session here. The price for that is going up on Wednesday, August 26 and will never again be offered at this low price.

Now, as if meeting me isn't enough, there's a lot more going on during this revolutionary weekend, September 26-27, in Hollywood California:

The community, dating, sex, and the game as you knew it up until now is about to be obsolete!!!

That's right!!! On September 26-27, the community is getting together and those who paved it, along with the newest teaching sensations are about to shred to bits the old frames and models, and once again revolutionize your reality as a man when it comes to love, sex, lifestyle and romance!!!

And this time, the focus is more on target than ever, as all the gurus listed below, will help the lucky ones who act now and save your space to attend, to transition to sex more SMOOTHLY, NATURALLY, RAPIDLY AND SUCCESSFULLY than ever, whatever you may be after, be it that one special girl, or wild encounters that would make Casanova himself look like an AFC!

Enough said, the line up speaks for itself, watch clip from last year: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qtHT8XG7Vok

Join in or be left in the dark with technologies and frames that will by then be outdated!!!

SO WHO ELSE IS COMING to spend a whole weekend, for just $189 (going up on Aug. 24th)...

Sept. 26-27 Hollywood CA, USA...with...

Bad Boy - All the way from Eastern Europe! The ORIGINAL Direct Tactic Guru!
Lance Mason - Founder of Pick Up 101!
Adam Lyons - America's new favorite rising star, as seen on UK Reality TV "Rules of Seduction"!
Hypnotica - Hard core inner game guru, from Neil Strauss' "The Game" known as Rasputin!
Mehow - The originator of in field videos, best selling author of "Get The Girl (TM)", "Group Attraction (TM)", and "10 Second Sexual Attraction"!
Vince Kelvin - The original NLP for Pickup expert, over 19 years of service to community!
David Wygant - The Orignal "Hitch" - Will Smith's Character was based on this Natural!
Speer - Lifestyle expert! One of the community's favorite new teachers, breaking it down simple!
Daniel Rose - Author of The Sex God Method - The community's best expert on giving female orgasms!
Asian Playboy - Revolutionized how Asian men go about dating - Voted best Asian pickup artist!
Brad P. - The World's foremost authority on Opening!
Daxx - From Love Systems / Mystery Method Corp. One of Savoy's rising stars!
Johnny Wolf - ABC's of Attraction Lead Instructor back from Retirement just to help out for a limited time!
Brian Begin & Robbie Kramer of Inner Confidence - Skyrocket Your Inner Game With The Creators of Inner Confidence Re-Patterning (TM)!

Plus a "New Blood" Panel with...

- Marni from WinGirls! Get a female perspective!
- Adonis! Same Night Lay expert!
- Zar and Hydro! Social Science!
- KINO 5000! Pickup SD!
- Artesian! The Seduction Coaching Team!
- Simeon! Winner of VH1's "The Pickup Artist"!!!
- Sexual Chocolate! Direct Game!
- Erika Awakening! Female Dating Coach!
- DJ Fuji! Club game!
- Black Caesar! Miami Natural game!

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Many of these gurus I'll be meeting for the first time, many others I've met before (including Hypnotica, DJ Fuji, Brian Begin, Robbie Kramer, Adam Lyons, Brad P., and Mehow). This is a seriously star-studded line-up of gurus who are the real deal, so it's a tremendous amount of value for two days.

Hypnotica has been teasing me about what he's going to do to me on stage during his speech, too. I can't make any promises, but ... it's going to be fun :-)

Right now tickets are a bargain at $189 for the full weekend. Buy yours now here.

On Monday, tickets go up to $299 a piece, and there may not be any left by then. So join us in Hollywood for the Sept. 26-27 weekend by signing up here now.

I'm feeling very excited for this event :-)

Erika's Public Speaking Tips - Eight Ways to Feel More Relaxed and Give a Great Speech

Are you one of the many people who has a lot of anxiety about public speaking? Apparently, this is one of the number one phobias people have.

I have done a lot of public speaking in high pressure situations. Not only can we make public speaking easy on you, we can make it so much fun that you'll actually start looking forward to your next opportunity to do it.

Here are some tips:

1. Join a Toastmasters group. Lots of practice in an environment with less pressure. I recommend this very highly.

2. Have a basic structure for your speech, but never read from notes. As with pickup, canned material is the worst because there's no life in it. I see people go way too far in one direction or the other. Either they get on stage with obviously no preparation and no clue where they're going, rambling about -- or they have everything scripted out and there's no spontaneity. Your listeners crave structure and coherence because it feels satisfying, but they also crave spontaneity because it feels more engaged. Gotta give them both.

3. Get inspired by your own speech. At the end of the day, you've got to be interested in it yourself, or no one else is going to care either. If it's a topic that is boring to you, find something ... ANYTHING .. about it that is interesting, and start there.

4. Get the audience engaged. If at all possible, ask questions, get down in the audience, ask for a show of hands, call on people randomly, do whatever it takes to get the audience engaged. It will keep you engaged and present and connected, and it will keep them from falling asleep. People think a speech is all about the speaker, but that's not true at all. The speaker and the audience create a combined energy field that either makes for an awesome speech or a crappy one. It's as much about them as it is about you. If you do call on people, make sure to listen to what they say and truly engage them in a conversation.

5. Practice, but don't rehearse. The perfect speech is different every time you give it because if you're truly in the moment, it may keep the same structure but have a different flavor depending on the connection between you and the audience. Always go with the moment.

6. Speak slowly, and don't be afraid to pause. People need to be able to absorb what you're saying. Pauses can be used as segues to your next point and to give everyone a moment to absorb.

7. If you haven't done much public speaking, videotape yourself a few times beforehand so you notice any weird mannerisms or bad habits to cut out. You'll also get a more objective sense of whether you're speaking too slow or fast, too loud or soft, etc.

8. Use Emotional Freedom Technique to erase your anxiety and limiting beliefs about public speaking. Because Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT or tapping) can be used on just about everything, it will help to erase any anxiety you have. The more relaxed you are, the better your speech will go.

(For the uninitiated, EFT or tapping is an acupressure-based healing system that can be used to erase limiting beliefs and negative emotions very quickly, making tasks that once seemed impossible feel easy and effortless.)

Do you have a big speech coming up?

For personal coaching, see my coaching page and testimonials.

xoxo,
Erika

Get Your $50 Intro Session While It Lasts

I'm offering a special half-price $50 introductory EFT session right now, but this offer expires at midnight on Tuesday, August 25. At that point, the price for an intro session will go up to $65. So save your money and sign up now on my coaching page.

For a very limited time, I am also offering a package of four one-hour sessions for $300. The only catch is that you need to use all four sessions within one month's time. What I want you to see is how powerful EFT will be in your life when you are doing regular sessions with an EFT expert (me).

To see the extraordinary, life-changing results that I'm able to give my clients, usually in just one session, see my testimonials page here.

Experience for yourself how liberating it feels to be freed from your limiting beliefs forever :-)

Freeing Up Your Spontaneity: Another Client's Tapping Experience

Last night I did a coaching session over Skype with another guy who met me at the 21 Convention. He mentioned before our call that he had tried Emotional Freedom Technique (also known as EFT or tapping) before with little success. For purposes of this article, we'll call him Phil.

I set the intention for our session of teaching Phil some EFT tricks and shortcuts that I hoped would dramatically improve his results when he taps by himself.

(My coaching is not about making you dependent on me. It's about helping you become a fully empowered person who can achieve similar results on your own. That said, I believe that everyone, including all healers and coaches, benefits from continuing to do their own "work" with other experts. I personally continue to work nearly every week with a professional EFT practitioner. In fact, she and I had a hugely clearing session tonight, and I have seen quantum leaps in my life after sessions with her. Working with a professional helps all of us see our blind spots. She and I did an abundance segment tonight, and when I walked out the door and checked my iPhone, I had four new emails from clients! :-)

But I digress ...

So Phil kindly sent me this review about his session. What I note about his review is its honesty. I feel very happy to see that because a big part of what we worked on in our session was empowering him to speak his truth.

Here goes:

"I was a little hesitant signing up for the 1 hour EFT session since I've done EFT before (by myself), but only saw mediocre results. The issue I was trying to tackle during this session was hesitation- that awful gap of over analyzing before taking action in a social situation. For me, it was filtering what I wanted to say so it would be socially acceptable or to sound "cool".

Erika guided me through the tapping and we found a couple of key memories linked to this habit of not being able to express my true self. What was nice about it was that Erika was able to sense when I was experiencing anxiety and when I was emotionally clear. To be honest, I did not feel that much better after the 1 hour session, especially after reading about other's people's results on the testimonial page.

The next day, I did 2 more tapping sessions by myself, using the tapping model that Erika showed me and implementing some of the techniques that we talked about.

The results? I was hanging out with a group of people later that day and noticed that I cared a lot less about what they were thinking about me and focused on how I wanted to express myself. I remember the last time I hung out with them, I was in my head and pretty outcome dependent. But this time, I was contributing to the vibe and having fun rather than worrying about how I appeared. I felt words flow from my mouth at times. However, I did say some really stupid things, but I didn't really care that I said them and as a result, neither did anyone else. Erika's 1 hour session provided me with a model that I can use anytime to defeat virtually any limiting belief over time.

Overall, the session was a great success and I highly recommend trying it. Thank you Erika!"

Thank you, Phil. I *love* how he's honest about not feeling a quantum leap right after our session. Sometimes EFT is like that. Sometimes we see the results immediately, and sometimes we suddenly notice three weeks later that "something is different." A certain obsessive thought has vanished. Or we find ourselves easily taking a big step that seemed impossible before. And then we think back to that EFT session a few weeks before, and say "oh yeah, I remember now that I tapped on this."

I also *love* that he did the EFT homework I suggested to him.

Most of all, I love that the intention we set for the session was fulfilled: Phil now knows how to use EFT in a way that he can achieve significant results by tapping on his own.

I'm feeling good. Life is good :-)

Why Most Dating Advice Does Not Work ... and What to Do About It

When I first got into the "dating advice" world, maybe five or so years ago, I started out reading all the conventional wisdom books, like The Rules and others in the same vein.

True to the titles, these books were prescribing various "rules" for dating, such as "never call a man," "break up with him if he doesn't buy you a romantic gift for Valentine's Day," etc.

I feel a little embarrassed to admit that, for a while, I tried to follow the advice in books like that. And the results were ... disastrous. I was already way up "in my head," and trying to apply silly rules like those only made the problem worse. As if I wasn't already beating myself up enough, now I could pile on more "beating myself up" for not following the rules properly. It went like this:

So now I'm following all these rules, and men still aren't into me. There must be something wrong with me. I'm never going to understand how to turn this all around.

Yes, I also bought a number of products that promised "overnight results," "bring your lover back to your side quickly," "change your relationships overnight," etc., if only I would follow their rules. Four quick secrets. Five things men don't want you to know. Seven principles to bring him back to your side. Blah blah blah. I would not be authentic if I told you that any of them delivered on those promises. I don't regret buying them because they motivated me to get on the path that I'm on today, but I sure wouldn't recommend them to anyone else.

I'm here to tell you ... as a veteran of pretty much everything the dating and relationship industry has to offer, for both men and women ...

Rules do not work.

Let me say it again ... Rules simply do not work.

Why? Because they are too inflexible, they kill spontaneity, they are not authentic, they lead to endless game playing and going around and around in circles in your mind, and -- perhaps worst of all -- they skip over the heart altogether, which is where all real connection begins.

It pains me when I read men or women talking about their love lives and saying, "so I didn't call him/her for three days, now he/she is really going to see that I'm not a pushover" or "he/she is going to see that I'm busy with my own life and have too much going on to give a second thought to him/her," etc.

No. He/she is not going to see that you're not a pushover, and he/she is not going to see that you have too much going on to think about him/her.

More likely, he/she actually did want to connect with you, but now feels a weird energy from you (yes, he/she does FEEL it long distance, even if you don't call, text, email, or stop by -- mark my words) because you are way up in your head analyzing the situation instead of being a real, live, lovable human being who does and says what he/she wants to do.

This "being in the head" thing happens on both sides of the gender fence. I see men hesitate before they approach women, before they call, and before they talk on dates. I see women spin themselves into endless "stories" about his "motives" when he doesn't call or do the things that would feel loving to her. None of this is helpful.

The truth is that we all do have access to a quiet voice inside that knows exactly what to do and what to say in every moment to have a happy life and great connections. It's called intuition. The trouble is that way too many of us are not listening to that voice. In fact, way too many of us are not even able to hear it. The quiet voice of intuition has been drowned out by the loud, crazy, frenetic voice of the ego, which is judging, criticizing, and blaming everyone in sight.

It's very noticeable in my coaching. Both men and women want to have deeper, happier connections, but I see a lot of these two primary "disconnection" patterns:

(1) The Hesitation Pattern. This is when I ask a question, and there is a long silence before answering. It's not a connected silence, either. It's a "I'm in my head" silence. It's a silence that goes like this, "oh, there I had an intuition of what to say, but now I'm already judging myself for saying that, so I stopped and now I'm going in circles in my mind."

(2) The Endless Story or "Mental Spaghetti" Pattern. This is when I ask a question, and I get a long story with all kinds of details, and especially full of judgments and analysis of a situation. This I also call "mental spaghetti."

When someone is following a lot of dating "rules," I usually see the hesitation pattern. The person is afraid of being spontaneous because they are afraid of being judged. This person is often very concerned about what other people think of him or her.

When someone is trying to distract themselves from negative feelings, I see a lot of the endless story/mental spaghetti pattern. Because staying on the hamster wheel of our endless story about "what happened" and "how awful the other person was" is a way of avoiding deep sadness, anger, guilt, shame, and so forth.

Neither pattern builds true attraction or intimacy. Neither pattern works. And I see very little dating advice that is anywhere close to effective at getting people out of either of those patterns.

That's why I use energy healing (such as EFT or tapping). I use it on myself and I use it with most people who come to me for help. With energy healing, I can close the "hesitation" gap so that people will be able to start spontaneously speaking their truth, moment to moment. With energy healing, I can also "riff" with a person's story or mental spaghetti until they sink into their actual authentic feelings, feel them, and release them.

That's how people become present again. That's how they become spontaneous and attractive. That's when they stop analyzing and start living.

That's when they can throw all the rules out the window.

And it feels soooooooo liberating.

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And you know what happens when you clear all that crap out of your vibe? Precious little moments like this, which never used to happen to me, ever:

I was having trouble getting a taxi yesterday and saw one parked on the side of the road, so I gestured to ask whether he was available, and he waved me off. Well, my internal dialogue was not "oh that sucks" or "that jerk." I just kinda shrugged and smiled and went on my way.

The taxi driver pulls out and picks me up on the next corner. He says that actually he's not a taxi driver in my city at all, he works in a neighboring city, and he was waiting for his friend, but he'd like to give me a ride anyway. So I get in, thank him, express how happy I am that he picked me up. Then I notice that the meter's not running. I say, "Oh, no meter. Ok, I'll just pay you what I'd normally pay a taxi here." He says, "no, there's no charge. I didn't pick you up for the fare. I picked you up because you seemed sweet and you needed a ride."

I felt so touched. But this is the kind of thing that happens to me ALL THE TIME now, since I cleaned up my own vibe with energy healing.

I want everyone to start experiencing this beautiful life.

Half Price Introductory EFT Session Expires on Tuesday, August 25 - Sign Up Now!

Hey everyone,

Well, the Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) testimonials are pouring in ... I've created a new page HERE to collect a few of them for you. I always feel happy when I hear what a big difference an EFT session made for a client who was feeling "stuck" about their love life or financial situation.

For those who are not familiar, EFT is an acupressure-based healing system initially developed by Gary Craig. Although EFT can be applied to almost any situation or issue, I am perfecting its use for Dating and Relationship Empowerment. EFT is fabulously powerful for erasing limiting beliefs, enhancing self-esteem, and uncovering your natural magnetic "vibe" that will enhance attraction and intimacy.

I use my own version of EFT with my clients, which I have developed through years of experimentation, applying EFT to hundreds if not thousands of issues. I have also read hundreds of articles, worked with expert practitioners, and integrated my knowledge of EFT with my dating and relationship expertise.

The results are phenomenal. I will help you make rapid and dramatic change in your love life.

Here's a link to my FREE 10-minute introductory EFT video.

One thing I love about EFT is that it is a fabulous complement to whatever is already working for you. So say, for example, that you are a guy and you like the style of Real Social Dynamics (and I am a fan of theirs). Or say, for example, that you are a woman and you like the style of Rori Raye (and I am a fan of hers). Well, what EFT will do is ACCELERATE your learning and integration of the principles and practices they are teaching.

I have decided to extend my special introductory offer to anyone who gets their payment in by midnight on Tuesday, August 25. You will receive a full one-hour EFT session, with my full undivided presence and attention (worth $100 in cash and an infinite amount more in the results you'll see), for just $50.

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And here is my full (and newly revised) coaching page.

But don't take my word for it -- see what my clients are saying! After reading these testimonials, it's easy to see how much you will benefit from even just one session.

Whether you're feeling confused, sad, frustrated, just plain STUCK, or you're already getting good results but want to take things to the next level, I can help you. And I'll teach you tricks and techniques and shortcuts that you'll then be able to apply on your own to achieve much faster results with EFT, and much faster integration of the dating knowledge that you may be gaining from other coaches and companies.

I look forward to working with you!

xoxo,
Erika Awakening

Excerpt from A Course in Miracles

This is a quiet time, in which the teacher of God rests a while in reasonable peace.

Now he consolidates his learning. Now he begins to see the transfer value of what he has learned. Its potential is literally staggering, and the teacher of God is now at the point in his progress at which he sees in it his whole way out.

"Give up what you do not want, and keep what you do." How simple is the obvious! And how easy to do!

The teacher of God needs this period of respite. He has not yet come as far as he thinks. Yet when he is ready to go on, he goes with mighty companions beside him. Now he rests a while, and gathers them before going on.

He will not go on from here alone.

Help Wanted - Marketing/Technical

Hey everyone,

If you are good with internet marketing and technical issues -- or you know someone who is -- and you are willing to help me out, please email me at erika.awakening@gmail.com.

Last night I went out with Johnny and Henny from Barry Kirkey's forum. Lol :-) We definitely saw a lot of community types out and about. We had fun. Except Johnny said my blog reminds him of Savoy's ... As if.

Oh, and it's not too late to vote in the poll about going on Barry's Radio Show, but I moved the poll down to the bottom of the page (right hand side bar) to make room for the PUA World Summit, which I am very excited about because I get to see Hypnotica again and meet a bunch of PUAs I've never met before, and I'm going to be a panelist there on Saturday, September 26. Hope to see you there!

What are your beliefs about money?

Why some people have a lot of money, and others are always struggling to have enough

I once heard someone say something very interesting. He said:

If you redistributed all the money in the world so that everyone had exactly the same amount, it would not take very long before everyone would be back in the same position they were before they money was redistributed. The rich people would be rich again, and the poor people would be poor again.

If you ask me, the same goes for things like being overweight. If we could magically make everyone fit and healthy, but we did not change their belief systems first, the overweight people would soon be overweight again, and the fit and healthy people would stay fit and healthy.

Why? Because this is their comfort zone.

And what are comfort zones made up of? Our beliefs, which in turn are built on top of our life experiences, especially our early life experiences.

So if we want to get out of our comfort zone, then we are going to need to do something to change those beliefs and transform the patterns created by our early life experiences.

Burning Man and limiting beliefs about money

I received an anonymous comment the other day expressing displeasure about my intention this year at Burning Man to teach, among other things, how to use Emotional Freedom Technique to attract abundance and financial opportunities.

Anonymous said: "Speech on manifesting financial opportunities at burning man, which is all about everything but money???"

I feel amused by this comment for one thing because, if you know anything about Burning Man, you will know that it requires a MASSIVE amount of money to put it on every year.

For the uninitiated, Burning Man is a huge art festival held in Black Rock Desert, out in the middle of nowhere, in Nevada. Thousands of people spend weeks creating a temporary city in the desert, with hundreds of theme camps. Participating in Burning Man has been one of the more transformative life experiences I've ever had, and it's not something easily described. There is a group-created spiritual energy at the event that is very powerful. Plus, it's just a ton of fun. Imagine partying in the middle of the desert with 30,000 to 40,000 amazingly cool people who are scantily clad in outrageous costumes and dancing all night long on lighted-up art cars. Last year, I made an entirely new group of friends who have now become important people in my life.

Anyhoo, it's true that -- once arrived in the Nevada desert -- Burning Man is a gift economy. The only things sold there are coffee and ice. Everything else is gifted. Which is awesome when you're thirsty at 2 am and a little cart sidles up offering you free vodka cranberry drinks. :-)

But what about getting there in the first place? It's true that Burning Man sells a limited number of discounted tickets if you buy them months in advance. But for most people, the ticket to get in is $300. Then you need a way to get there, because it's out in the middle of nowhere. I take my car (gas, mileage, maintenance, car wash afterwards to cleanse it of playa dust), but lots of people rent RVs for thousands of dollars. Then you need provisions. Either you join a theme camp and a meal plan (add several hundred dollars) or you buy a bunch of necessary items (add several hundred dollars). And if you want to participate in the pageantry and the gifting, well, last year I spent several hundred dollars on black fur platform boots, colored fishnet tights, fanciful petticoats, and all sorts of other fun things. Total cost for me last year ... probably at least $1000. For those who go all out at Burning Man, I can't even imagine ... probably thousands and tens of thousands of dollars.

My point is that if we want to experience all that life has to offer, and I put Burning Man very high on the list of experiences to have while you're incarnated in this lifetime, then we need money -- or at the very least some other form of exchange -- to make that happen.

And yet, I have encountered so many people in the seduction community whose beliefs about money are STOPPING THEM from having the life experiences they would like to have.

Some common limiting beliefs about money

Here are some common beliefs about money that I hear in my EFT practice:
1. It's not spiritual to make money
2. I have to work hard to make money, and I'm too lazy
3. If I make money, then I have "bought in" to a system that I don't believe in
4. I feel guilty receiving money
5. My family has always been poor, so I think I will always be poor
6. The market I'm in is saturated, and there's too much competition

And all of those beliefs are actually built on early life experiences. Inevitably when we dig down, we will learn that the person's mother or father or grandmother said something or did something very early in that person's life that made that person feel undeserving of money, or led that person to feel that if they had money, they would be a "bad person." Etc.

I personally noticed that my comfort zone for most of my life has been receiving a salary. Everyone in my family was salaried also. I have been very comfortable receiving a salary, even a very high salary, but I was less comfortable receiving money from individual people -- no matter how much I was contributing to their lives. Obviously that needed to be shifted for me to be effective at what I do.

Methods for getting out of our comfort zone and changing our financial situation

So again, there are various ways we can get out of our comfort zone, including:
1. Feel the fear and do it anyway
2. Meditation
3. Reading books about making money
4. Affirmations
5. Increasing conscious awareness of our beliefs

I talked about all those methods at the 21 Convention, and the free video footage of that speech is scheduled to be released in mid-September. I won't repeat it all here, except to say this ...

During my speech, I asked the guys for a show of hands:

Who among you has found an effective way of changing limiting beliefs, a method that works consistently?

Not one single guy raised his hand. Not one.

And that was my experience, too, before I discovered Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT). I read a bunch of books and tried affirmations, but because I was trying to write positive beliefs on top of a huge reserve of negative beliefs, all that resulted was further frustration and chaos.

Until I found EFT. And then everything started to change, very quickly.

How I can help you use EFT to change your financial situation

Go here to watch my free introductory video about EFT.

If you're intrigued about how EFT can be used to change your financial situation quickly, and you want to try this out inexpensively, I encourage you to get the audio from our recent EFT teleclass about Attracting Abundance and Jumpstarting Your Business. It's only $20, and during the call we cover a lot of ground, including:

1. Kate Winch and I share our own experiences with how EFT increased our financial abundance.
2. I share my six-step process for using EFT effectively to transform your belief system about money.
3. Kate Winch and I both work with individual callers, erasing beliefs such as "I can't leave my current job because there's a recession, I won't have enough clients, I'm worried I'll regret it, etc."
4. I explain how early life experiences may be affecting your current life situation, and how we clear the emotional charge from those memories to free you up in the present moment.

Since the call, which was less than a week ago, participants on the call have reported the following successes:

1. A woman who had been struggling for months to find a job got a promising lead to come back to work for her prior employer.
2. A woman who wants to leave her current job and have her own business got a new client the morning after the call.
3. I received several incredible opportunities, including free publicity for my blog, a two-hour speaking spot at one of the most prominent camps at Burning Man, and a speaking opportunity at a prominent seduction community event.

And now here is the latest report, from a man who was on the call. This is our Facebook email conversation yesterday:

Him: Hmm...my credit card is dropping fast. I'm really wondering why I have another one coming to me in the mail. Trippy.

Me: tell me more. What do u mean it's dropping ...?

Him: Last week, before the call, I got a credit card I had shredded reissued. I thought that I would need it as my other card is maxed out. Now, the card I got reissued is in the mail and my other card is 25% paid off. Neat results!

Me: wow, did the money just 'come out of nowhere'? Can I put it on my blog?

Him: You're welcome to put it on your blog. The money came from tips at my job. I am more intuitively directed about what to do with the money. I definitely didn't understand the simplicity of what is happening in my financial life. *hug*

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So there you go. Yes, it really can be that simple. When we change our beliefs about money using the power of EFT, our financial situation changes.

Sign Up for Our Teleclass Audio Now

If you think about it, you really can't afford not to listen to this EFT Audio for Attracting Abundance. It will be the best $20 you ever spend. Sign up here now.

Kate and I are also taking suggestions now for future EFT Teleclasses, so please let us know, by commenting or emailing me at erika.awakening@gmail.com, what topics you'd most like to cover in our next few teleclasses.

xoxo,
Erika

How EFT Can Help Us With Compassionate Boundary-Setting

Earlier this week, I did an Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) session with a woman we'll call Sandra. Sandra had been agonizing for weeks about having an honest conversation with a guy she has been dating. She did not feel like she could be honest, yet she felt guilty about not telling him what she was thinking. This is a pattern that I call emotional gridlock, where we are not congruent with our actions because of guilt. We have different parts that are not aligned, so we are "stuck," we cannot move forward, we feel anxiety and fear.

I believed that I could help Sandra with EFT. She signed up for my special introductory offer (which, btw, I've decided to extend for one more week, so sign up now :-).

At the beginning of our session, Sandra's voice sounded weak and shaky. She was feeling stuck in her small town with very few other options for dating besides this one particular guy she had been seeing. She was feeling isolated and powerless. She could not imagine herself having an honest conversation with him.

We started tapping on her distress about the current situation, but I very quickly asked her to tell me what the current feeling reminded her of from the past. All that came up at first was the phrase "beige carpet" and a huge amount of sadness.

The sadness was so intense that we tapped for a while just on the sadness and "beige carpet." I didn't want to go too deep too fast. When I do EFT sessions with people, I attune to what they are feeling (this happens even when it's long distance over the phone), and I could feel this sadness was BIG. I wanted us to take the edge off the sadness before continuing.

One of Sandra's main reasons for feeling powerless is that she did not feel like she could set good boundaries in her relationship. She was afraid to be honest because "I don't want to mess things up," "I don't want to hurt his feelings," "I don't want him to think I'm a bad person."

As we tapped, her mind went back to memories of her mom. The thoughts that went with the sadness were things like "my mom taught me that the world is not a safe place," "my dad cheated on my mom," etc. The overwhelming energetic feeling I was tuning in to with Sandra was "powerless."

Sandra's voice was wavering on the "I love and accept myself completely phrase," so I used some phrases like:

Even though I don't really love and accept myself completely, and I choke up when I try to say it, I choose to be open to the possibility that I could love and accept myself completely ... someday ...

We went deeper, and as often happens with EFT, an early childhood memory suddenly popped into her head. We approached it gradually because the sadness was so intense. Not coincidentally, the memory involved Sandra as a child doing something that was meant as "play" that unintentionally crossed one of her mother's boundaries. Her mother's reaction was to retaliate, and it turns out that "beige carpet" was part of this memory.

Once the relationship between this old memory and her current situation became clear, I followed my intuition into phrasing like this:

Even though my mother didn't know how to set boundaries in a compassionate way ...

Even though when I crossed my mother's boundary, she retaliated against me ...

Even though my mom didn't set good boundaries with my dad ...

Even though I learned as a child that I could either be a doormat or set boundaries harshly ...

It's no wonder I don't know how to set boundaries in my relationship now ...

Even though I never learned to set boundaries in a compassionate way that both people would feel good about ...

Once all the negative was tapped out, I decided to implant some positive beliefs:

What if there is a part of me that has always known how to set boundaries in a compassionate way?

What if I do know how to do this?

What if I could speak my truth without apologizing for it?

I choose to empower the part of myself that already knows how to set boundaries in a compassionate way ...

And so forth.

By the end of the call, Sandra's voice had changed completely. It was no longer wavering and frail. She could say "I love and accept myself completely" and mean it. She sounded decisive and powerful. She sounded happy and light.

After the call, she had a conversation with the guy she had been dating. The conversation she had been wanting to have -- but was too scared to have -- for many weeks. She said she just "felt different."

And this is what she wrote to me today, as the "testimonial" from her session:

"I had been referred to Erika for EFT by someone who's opinion I respect alot, but to be honest, before the session, I felt doubtful about what EFT could do for me. But in my first session with Erika, I felt surprised at how quickly she helped me touch on a deep childhood memory and help me clear the pain of it away. After my session with Erika, that same day, I was able to have a conversation that I had been agonizing over for months. I was able to speak from my heart, with virtually no anxiety."

Thank you, Sandra, for sharing that with me. My heart sings to hear about each and every EFT miracle :-)

If you would like to experience this kind of dramatic life change in one hour, please sign up now for my special introductory offer.

Another EFT Testimonial and More Good News ...

Today a woman I've done two Emotional Freedom Technique sessions with sent me this testimonial to share with you all:

"Erika helped me twice to clear out some of my deepest emotional issues. The results were significant. I felt felt much more relaxed about myself and people around me said that I have a 'glow'. It also helped me to get clarity about my relationships with men in my life, including a long unresolved issue with my dad. I highly recommend Erika as a healer and EFT coach!"

I feel so happy receiving feedback like this, it confirms how huge a difference I can make in people's lives through EFT.

In fact, I'm feeling so inspired after doing another super powerful session just now, that I'm going to extend my special half price introductory offer on EFT sessions for one more week. That's it, though. My kindness has to stop somewhere. Go here before I change my mind ;-)

And now for some more good news:

1. Erika is going to be a panelist at the PUA Summit on September 26. The Summit is being held in Hollywood, and I'll have more details for you very soon. I'm super excited, as this is my second community "speaking" engagement (the first being the 21 Convention), and I feel like things are really picking up momentum.

2. Please vote in my poll (in the right hand side bar) and give your opinion whether I should get interviewed on the Barry Kirkey Radio Show. Marni said that Barry was very nice to her, so after hearing that I started feeling more comfortable about it, like it might be fun ...

3. Erika will be gifting (that means "free") a two-hour Emotional Freedom Technique class at Burning Man. This will be held right in the heart of the camp, at the Evolutionary Temple, very close to Center Camp. My time slot is 6-8 pm on Friday, September 4. I plan to devote half of it to dating/relationships and half to abundance/manifesting financial opportunities. More details to follow ... I hope to see a lot of you there.

If you've never experienced Burning Man, please put it on your list of "must do in this lifetime" activities. It really is that amazing.

More soon ... please remember to sign up for my free newsletter (right hand side bar, directly underneath the poll about Barry's show).

xoxo,
Erika

Stay tuned for tomorrow's blog ... lol ;-)

There's so much going on right now (and in particular I have been feeling so overwhelmed by blogging technology) that I haven't had much time to write the more personal blog entries, but ...

Stay tuned for tomorrow where I tell the story of realizing through Emotional Freedom Technique how my second-grade jumping rope memory was related to my fear of embodied experiences and, in particular, threesomes.

If tapping on stuff like this immediately manifests motorcycle rides for me, then I'm all for it. No more looking through glass and living vicariously for me.

yay!

Important Announcements - Please Read

Hi Everyone,

A bit of important housekeeping around the Awakening blog tonight.

1. My Newsletter List

Thank you for your patience as we work through some technical glitches. About 40 of you signed up for my newsletter at a time when the second step of the process (step 2 = an email is sent to you so that you can confirm the subscription) was not working. That means, sadly, that you are not signed up yet.

So ... if you would like to be subscribed to my new newsletter, and you did not receive a confirmation email and click on it to confirm, please go to my new coaching page HERE, wait for the pink pop-up page (yes, it's pink -- I am a girl after all ;-), and re-enter your information.

It will be worth the extra clicking. I respect your time, your energy, and your freedom of choice. My newsletter will be infrequent and carefully tailored to give you only worthwhile reading and special offers. It will be a newsletter to look forward to ... :-)

2. The PUA Summit, September 26-27

I am very excited to announce that I will be participating in the PUA Summit the weekend of September 26-27. More details to follow ... It will be a lot of fun to see Hypnotica again, as well as finally meet Marni from the Wing Girl Method. A great line-up of speakers, but more on that later ...

3. Purchase the Audio from Our Amazing Teleclass on EFT for Abundance

We really enjoyed our Emotional Freedom Technique Teleclass on Monday night. The topic was using Emotional Freedom Technique to Attract Abundance and Jumpstart Your Business. I had 15 signups and Kate had a bunch too. From my perspective, we moved into a deep trance state during the call (feels like hypnosis), and that's where the powerful change happens.

Many people contacted us to say they were not able to participate on the call due to scheduling issues, but could we please do the class again or record it. The answer is YES.

Please sign up here using this PayPal button for a mere $20, and I will send you the 90-minute audio file for the class:

When you listen to the audio recording and tap along with us (free introductory EFT video here), you will get the same life-changing benefits of those who were on the call.

What are people saying after the class?

Kate received this email the morning after the class:

Hi Kate,

I just got an email for a new client! ha ha ha. Was it you or Erika that mentioned the best $20 we'd ever spend?

- Name withheld

Meanwhile, I personally manifested several exciting opportunities after the call, one at an upcoming conference and one for free publicity on a website that gets three to four times more traffic than mine.

And another woman on the call who has been struggling to find a job for months reported to me today that after the call she got a very promising lead to come back to work for her previous employer.

These are the miracles that become commonplace when you learn how to use EFT effectively.

So sign up now with the PayPal button and let me send you an audio with my intention that it be the best $20 you ever spent (because it was me who said that on the call).

Big smiles today,
Erika :-)

Motorcycle Guy Reemerges ...

Hmmmm ...

Among the many things that EFT has improved for me is my parking karma. I usually get a spot straightaway. But tonight no dice. So I parked in an illegal spot and waited until something would clear. I was doing some tapping to release my frustration about one of my sticking points, got an emotional crescendo and even some tears, and just as it was clearing ... out of the blue ...

A text from Motorcycle Guy (who is a prominent dating and relationship coach, you'd all know him if I revealed his name):

Him: You in sf right now?

[Immediately parking space opens up right in front of me.]

Me: Yeah.

Him: Dinner?!

Me: Would you be able to pick me up or come near me?

[I park in the perfect space, which is literally right in front of the door of my building.]

Him: I'll be where you are in 15. If we're riding I'll have to pickup a helmet on way. Wanna ride?

Well, OF COURSE I WANT TO RIDE!!!

When coincidences like this happen, I know there's something bigger going on than just me. I'm intrigued ... gotta run now though. He'll be here any minute.

Why You Want to Be on Erika and Kate's Abundance Teleclass Tomorrow Night: Magic at Your Fingertips

I'm thrilled about the enthusiastic response about tomorrow's Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) teleclass for Financial Abundance and Jumpstarting Your Business.

When: Tomorrow, August 10, 2009, from 7-8:30 pm Pacific Standard Time
Who: Taught by Erika Awakening (me) and Kate Winch
Price: A mere $20 for a call that will pay for itself many times over.
How: Show up by telephone. We send you the call-in information upon receiving your payment by PayPal.

I just received a paid confirmation from a guy we'll call "Frank." After he signed up, he sent me this email on Facebook:

I look forward to it. I read an EFT book after your speech at the 21 Convention and have been doing it a little. It is one of the most amazing things I have ever come across.

I was a little suspicious it would work until i tried it. For 21 years, Ive never thought I was as good as my brother and I realized it was causing all sorts of problems and anxiety. I didnt even know it was a problem until I sat down and started to think about my childhood and realized how much I was still angry/sad/jealous.

I did some EFT on myself and I no longer feel anything bad when I think about it, which is awesome.

I feel very free at last from any bad memories growing up....But Im sure there are still more lurking.

I also used it before the club for anxiety, smoking, drinking and more and its super effective.

Im excited you can use it for wealth/money. I found EFT ebook online that is really good.

Thanks again for bring this life changing "technology" to my awareness.

And thank you, Frank, for letting me know how much EFT is already changing your life.

Here are some frequently asked questions about the Teleclass:

1. Does EFT really work?

Yes. I have used it to heal medical conditions, nearly double rental income on a property, improve my relationships, and go from dating disaster to having six guys want to marry me in the past 1.5 years. Not to mention hundreds of other successes, both for me and people I've worked with. You can see some success stories on our EFT thread on RSDNation.

2. Do I need to know EFT to be on the call?

Yes, but if you don't yet know EFT, you can learn it in 10 minutes by watching my free video here. We are not going to teach EFT on the call because we want all participants to receive the maximum possible learning about how to use EFT in more advanced ways.

3. Will I be able to ask questions on the call?

Yes, we plan to devote part of the call to working with participants on their specific challenges relating to money and jumpstarting their business. So please have your questions ready!

4. What will I learn on this call that I can't learn on my own?

You will have not one, but TWO, EFT experts on this call. The main advantage of learning from us is that we have already done all the research and experimentation that leads to FAST and DRAMATIC results. We will save you countless time and effort. We will be teaching advanced techniques on this call, and we will make it clear how you can then apply them in your own life as tricky issues come up.

It sounds dramatic to say this, but your life will be changed forever. You will have more power at your fingertips (I like to call it Magic at Your Fingertips) than you ever imagined possible. Just like Frank said.

This is how you sign up:

In the big scheme of things, $20 is a bargain. It's a few drinks at a bar. I promise this is money much better spent. This class will pay for itself many times over.

Please sign up NOW to learn how to use this amazing tool to transform your financial life. We are very excited about doing EFT with you!