Sunday, January 3, 2010
I'm not mad anymore ... what "radical forgiveness" really means
Yeah, I'm not mad at Entropy anymore :)
As for Sinn, I suggest that we all reach deep into our hearts and send him some love, cuz he needs it.
(Let me clarify right up front that I am not saying that in a "condescending" way. We all need love, and we especially need it when we lapse into judging people. I hope when I lapse into judgment that people will send me love too. Did you know that if a bunch of people collectively decide to send love to someone, that person can feel it?)
I realize there are those out there who may sometimes think I'm a little "crazy" or even "irresponsible." That's okay. I far prefer being a little "whatever" to being so-called "normal" (i.e., a slave in the Matrix).
But truthfully, there is a method to my madness. Everything I do on this blog, including my expression from time to time of intense anger, is part of a comprehensive system that I have developed over the past few years for transforming our lives radically and rapidly toward greater happiness and empowerment.
This is how to step out of the Matrix and into the paradise of the real world.
What is the real world? It is the world transformed before our eyes through radical forgiveness. It is the world purified of all anger, hate, sickness, conflict, and travesty of every kind.
Is this possible? You better believe it. It is inevitable. The world will be saved. And you can help, not by cleaning up the world, not by judging yourself or others, but by cleaning up YOUR mind. By cleansing your mind of judgments and destructive karmic patterns.
Everything we see begins and ends in our minds.
Toward that end, let me share with you some foundational passages from A Course in Miracles that have deeply influenced my approach to coaching:
1. Fundamental Principle Number One: People who give pain do so only because they themselves are in pain.
This includes anyone and everyone who is in the habit of judging others, no matter how much of a "tough guy" facade they may be showing to the outside world. They are merely covering up their own pain.
Responding to attack with attack only perpetuates the cycle of pain. Thus, the first step is recognizing that all judgments and attack are really a "call for love." The correct response is not attack, but compassion.
The power of God is limitless. And, being always maximal, it offers everything to every call from anyone. There is no order here. A call for help is given help. The only judgment involved at all is in the Holy Spirit's one division into two categories; one of love, and the other, the call for love.
2. Fundamental Principle Number Two: It is important to forgive AND forget.
To forgive is merely to remember only the loving thoughts you gave in the past, and those that were given you. All the rest must be forgotten.
3. Fundamental Principle Number Three: True forgiveness (what I call "radical forgiveness") changes the past and ensures a future unlike the past.
The past only exists in our interpretations. If forgiveness is deep enough, our interpretations of the past will change. If forgiveness is deep enough, also, whatever we perceived in the past that we did not like will *never* happen again. The entire karmic pattern has been erased from the mind.
Here is the foundational passage from ACIM:
Pardon is always justified. It has a sure foundation. You do not forgive the unforgivable, nor overlook a real attack that calls for punishment. Salvation does not lie in being asked to make unnatural responses which are inappropriate to what is real. Instead, it merely asks that you respond appropriately to what is not real by not perceiving what has not occurred. If pardon were unjustified, you would be asked to sacrifice your rights when you return forgiveness for attack. But you are merely asked to see forgiveness as the natural reaction to distress that rests on error, and thus calls for help. Forgiveness is the only sane response. It keeps your rights from being sacrificed.
This understanding is the only change that lets the real world rise to take the place of dreams of terror. Fear cannot arise unless attack is justified, and if it had a real foundation pardon would have none. The real world is achieved when you perceive the basis of forgiveness is quite real and fully justified. While you regard it as a gift unwarranted, it must uphold the guilt you would "forgive." Unjustified forgiveness is attack. And this is all the world can ever give. It pardons "sinners" sometimes, but remains aware that they have sinned. And so they do not merit the forgiveness that it gives.
This is the false forgiveness which the world employs to keep the sense of sin alive. And recognizing God is just, it seems impossible His pardon could be real. Thus is the fear of God the sure result of seeing pardon as unmerited. No one who sees himself as guilty can avoid the fear of God. But he is saved from this dilemma if he can forgive. The mind must think of its Creator as it looks upon itself. If you can see your brother merits pardon, you have learned forgiveness is your right as much as his. Nor will you think that God intends for you a fearful judgment that your brother does not merit. For it is the truth that you can merit neither more nor less than he.