This morning I received a comment on the last post:
Erika here is a fable that reminds me of what happened between you and E. I think it reaches farther than that to all PUAs and potential PUAS.
A Scorpion wants to cross a river, but he can't swim. He goes to the frog, who can, and asks for a ride. Frog says, "If I give you a ride on my back, you'll go and sting me." Scorpion replies, "It would not be in my interest to sting you since as I'll be on your back we both would drown."
Frog thinks about this logic for a while and accepts the deal. He takes the scorpion on his back, and braves the waters.
Halfway over feels a burning spear in his side and realizes the scorpion has stung him after all. And as they both sink beneath the waves the frog cries out, "Why did you sting me, Mr. Scorpion, for now we both will drown?" Scorpion replies, "I can't help it, it's in my nature."
Actually, several people have sent me this story and essentially this same comment.
When I receive comments like this, I seriously wonder whether anyone actually reads the articles on this blog.
My dear readers, the scorpion and frog story is the OLD way of thinking. It does not work anymore.
What does this story tell us? It tells us that there are people in this world who have a harmful nature, that they will never change, and that if we are compassionate to them and try to help them, they will sting us.
This is BULLSHIT.
This is exactly the kind of belief that we ALL need to clear out of our belief systems using Emotional Freedom Technique because, as long as we believe it, it will be a SELF-FULFILLING PROPHECY.
We will go around assuming we can't trust people, assuming the worst about people, and THAT is what we will deliver to ourselves. That is the picture we will continue to see.
You know what the real moral of the Frog and Scorpion story is? The frog and the scorpion had not radically forgiven each other yet.
The frog was playing innocent, "good" person and had not bothered to reach deep into his belief system and clear out whatever unconscious limiting beliefs, karma, and traumas gave rise to this situation. (Don't worry, Frog will have a chance to get this right in his next lifetime. We all get infinite chances to get this right. God is very patient.)
Conventional wisdom is to hear the frog story and become LESS TRUSTING.
Erika wisdom is to hear the frog story, find the roots of the negative outcome, clear them the f*** out, and become MORE TRUSTING.
The more trusting we become, not at a conscious level, but at a deeply UNCONSCIOUS level, the less we will have ANYTHING to fear in the world.
It is all perception. Nothing we see is real. We have absolute power to change our minds and thereby change the world we see.
Don't buy into the Frog/Scorpion bullshit. If you do, you will continue to be a slave in the Matrix, at the mercy of forces that seem to be beyond your control.
Practice radical forgiveness instead.
There are NO bad people. There are only people we have yet to forgive, at an UNCONSCIOUS level.
EFT works on the unconscious level. Practice EFT every day.
Allow yourself to let go of conventional wisdom and unforgiving beliefs.
Allow yourself to let go of your judgments and low expectations of others.
Watch the Scorpion turn into your savior before your eyes.
This work is about doing what formerly seemed impossible. This work is about creating miracles.