Your beliefs ...

As each thought passes through your mind,

ask yourself:

if this thought were to come true, would I want that result?

This makes it very easy to choose among your thoughts.

"That guy is a jerk."

If that thought becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy (which it will), is that the reality I want?

No.

So I choose a different thought.

"That guy is not a jerk. Look, he was trying to protect his son. I can relate to that."

(That example happened to me on the ski lift today. Because I immediately chose a thought that felt better, the guy who seemed like a "jerk" ended up thanking me.)

Everything from here on out is sorting out between what you do want and what you don't want.

And it all starts and ends with your beliefs.

Before now, there was no rapid way to change your beliefs.

But now there is: http://www.erikaawakening.com

On the issue of logic: introducing Holistic Belief Reprogramming

Hi everybody,

Before I get started with today's article, I wanted to thank all of you for the hundreds of birthday well wishes I have received. It warms my heart and makes me feeling very supported and appreciated. Thank you for that.

Now I'm going to talk about something that I have waited for a very long time to reveal to my readers.

For the past year and a half since I started blogging and promoting "alternative" healing and self-development methods such as Emotional Freedom Technique (or tapping), my critics have accused me of not being "logical" enough. The notion that an acupressure-based system of belief change such as tapping could be so much more powerful than any conventional method of self-improvement available on the market today was just way beyond their current reality or comfort zone.

I have indeed said on this blog that logic is close to useless when it comes to solving any actual real human problem, and I meant it. My critics were up in arms, saying I was ignoring "reality" and "logic" and every other form of conventional wisdom. When those comments would come in, I sat back and felt somewhat amused because I was not ready yet to share what I am going to share with you today.

Does Erika Awakening understand logic?

Today I will reveal some details about my background that I have never discussed before on this blog.

I did have formal training before I entered the world of self-improvement and alternative healing.

I graduated from Harvard Law School. And not only did I graduate from HLS, it was magna cum laude. They didn't give us official class rankings there, but based on my grade point average, I was approximately in the top 2% of my class, give or take. I very nearly clerked for the U.S. Supreme Court.

Does Erika understand logic?

Right now I could be making millions of dollars being an attorney in private practice, employing a whole lot of "logic."

But I choose instead to coach people using the methods I discuss on this blog day in and day out.

Do you know why that is?

Because my extensive experience in the world of law taught me something quite precious: it taught me that logic does not solve anything.

I watched corporations spend millions of dollars litigating disputes that could have been resolved in one or two days of compassionate mediation.

It broke my heart to see people trying to use logic to solve conflicts, and instead finding themselves more and more deeply entrenched in turmoil and expensive battles.

And meanwhile, the deeper I got into that world, the more my own personal life went to shit.

Even the first year of law school I knew it was stealing my soul. I knew it intuitively, but I allowed "logic" to override my intuition, and I have paid dearly for it. I plowed through, and what I lost in the process was my aliveness, my spontaneity, my creativity, and my femininity.

It wasn't until I landed in a hospital bed four years ago within inches of my life, and had a full on near-death experience, that I knew something had to change.

Do you know why I almost died? Because "logic" had nearly killed my soul, and I was half dead inside.

My career was going great.

My relationships were in shambles.

My body was wracked with chronic and very intense pain that made it impossible even to sit in a normal chair. So I did the "logical" thing and went to see traditional doctors. And you know what? They couldn't do anything for me.

Do you know why? Because the root of my issue was not "logical." It was emotional. Trying to solve it with logic only kept me stuck.

After I got out of the hospital, I began the spiritual journey that has landed me here.

Upon discovering Emotional Freedom Technique (or tapping), I began using it every single day, first just on myself and over time with many other people. I unraveled one emotional issue after another.

I studied compassionate communication, Reiki, A Course in Miracles, and countless other spiritual methods.

And as I did so, my chronic pain disappeared. My relationships started improving. Old intractable conflicts dissolved. New opportunities began opening up in every area of my life. People began to be magnetized to me. Dozens of men started pursuing me romantically. I received numerous marriage proposals.

My acupuncturist was amazed at how my chi (life energy) had become completely un-stagnant and healthy again.

Everything was changing, and really, really fast :)

It became very obvious to me that if I could apply my system to other people's lives, hour for hour, I would be able to give them FAR more value and true satisfaction and empowerment than I'll ever be able to give them as an attorney.

Thus, passion took precedence over my paycheck.

I devoted myself in my off hours almost obsessively to understanding from the ground up exactly how I had transformed my own life, and how I could do this for other people as well.

Over the course of the past four years, my legal education did serve me in one way. I took all the emotional and spiritual teachings that I was learning and refining into a "logical" framework, that is, a holistic understanding of how people's belief systems operate and create their realities.

When you remove your limiting beliefs, and your judgments and your fears, infinite possibilities will begin to open up for you.

I am now ready to unveil the system that I have been developing for four years.

I call it Holistic Belief Reprogramming (HBR).

Your beliefs create your reality. If you can change your beliefs at the level where it really matters -- subconsciously -- everything you see and experience in your life will change.

My system will overhaul your entire belief system, and the reality you experience will transform right along with it.

It's like getting into a computer to de-fragment the hard drive and reprogram it. It's like getting under the hood of a car and rebuilding the engine.

Only this is YOUR ENTIRE LIFE we are talking about here.

Your fears, anger, limiting beliefs, and other unhealthy patterns will simply start dissolving right before your eyes. And you will feel sooooooo liberated!

I invite you to check out my new 7-day zero-cost introduction to Holistic Belief Reprogramming at my new website: http://www.erikaawakening.com.

Reclaim your destiny by going to my new site now.

Thank you, and have a wonderful day :)

Is this photography hot or what?

Http://www.rachelstephensphotography.com

yeah that's what I'm talkin' about :) :) :)

very exciting NYC announcement shortly, but I'm skiing right now so it'll have to wait a bit :)

New York City March 4-7

There's a lot going on behind the scenes right now, but I'm gonna keep it a surprise for now :)

In the meantime, I'm going to New York City from March 4 to 7 for a sexy photo shoot (more on that later). I'll be hanging out with some top PUAs, some of whose game I haven't seen yet.

If you'll be in NYC that weekend and want to connect, please email me at erika.awakening@gmail.com.

There's another NYC surprise coming up too ...

xoxo,
Erika

Goodbye for now

Appreciation: the best thing about having a partner is ... :)

I only have a second because I'm going to sushi with my hot GF, Firecracker Girl, but....

It felt important to take this moment to count my enormous blessings.

The absolutely best thing about having a partner for my life purpose, something I've wanted for sooooo long, is that when I'm stuck, he's inspired. When I'm tied up with other things, he keeps things moving forward.

He's awesome. I feel really blessed.

They say the sum is greater than the parts. It's sooo true. :)

Stay tuned for very exciting developments :)

xoxo

ooooh, can you feel it? ;)

Major tectonic shifting going on right now ... something really big is about to happen. I can feel it.

Feeling my hips looser, more fluid in the joints, after a month of emotional intensity, fireworks-style intimacy, and great sex :)

I also had a really, really fun time this past weekend hanging out with AFC Adam Lyons, his wife Amanda, and Luke Krogh. Kudos to them on their very professionally run bootcamp. I must also compliment Adam publicly (already did so privately) on his incredible speaking voice. Not only is his content excellent and highly entertaining, but he delivers it with the best speaking voice in the industry. Seriously, the guy can project his voice to the back of a large hotel room, as if he is talking right next to you, with no microphone. Nice :)

Plus, I love seeing Adam and Amanda together. They spend day in and day out together, teaching together, doing business together, and their love for each other is so obvious. Their relationship inspires me because I know what's next for me is a relationship with the partner I'll be teaching with for the rest of my life. Oooh, I get chills writing that :) Needless to say, I'm a fan :)

As for EA ...

The infrastructure is being laid down right now for big things, but mainly what I'm feeling now ... that something big is about to happen ... isn't based on anything "logical" ... I know from experience that these quiet times are very, very important ... and deceptive. To the unpracticed eye, it looks like nothing is happening. Nothing could be further from the truth.

This is when big shifts like what I had over the past month get integrated. After integration ... that's when we see quantum leaps.

You heard it here first :)

And, btw, have I mentioned? ... PUAs love me :)

Recovering PUAs love me, too.

LOL.

Don't Quit When You Are On the Verge of Success - 3 Ways to Avoid Being Sabotaged By the Ego Mind

This is a theme I've noticed a lot over the past year.

Does this sound like you?

You have come to the seduction community, or the Law of Attraction community, or the tapping community, or to any self-improvement community of any kind because you are frustrated with your life. Maybe it's your love life, maybe it's your financial life, maybe it's because you don't have a life passion and purpose. Whatever area of your life it is that is not working, you desperately want transformation.

You know you were not meant to be a man who has no sexual choice when it comes to women.

You know you were not meant to be a woman who attracts "toxic men."

You know you were not meant to be broke and overwhelmed by debt.

You know you were not meant to have conflict-ridden, abusive relationships.

You know you were not meant to wander aimlessly through this world, feeling bored a lot of the time, frustrated the rest of the time, and not knowing what your purpose here is.

So you sought out "solutions" and "advice," and after sorting through a lot of well-meaning programs and e-books that didn't work at all (there are a lot of them out there), maybe you found something that DID start to work. For example, maybe you finally found tapping. Or meditation. Or truly transformative coaching.

You started to see some benefits. Maybe you had some success with women for once in your life. Maybe cash started to come into your life from out of nowhere.

You started to think, "wow, finally this is actually working." You got your hopes up that maybe you weren't hopelessly stuck in your old reality.

And then something happened. A bunch of old fears jumped into your mind. Maybe you found yourself feeling VERY uncomfortable. Maybe you found yourself wanting to lash out at people or blame someone. Maybe you thought of a hundred excuses not to move forward. Maybe your progress came to a standstill, or you even took a few steps backwards. Maybe the situation you wanted to improve seemingly got WORSE.

When that happened, did you quit?

This is the all-important choice point, my dear friends. This is the moment of truth.

The truth is that no matter how much we WANT transformation in our lives ... Yes, we want sexual abundance, intimacy abundance, financial abundance. We want to have a life purpose so powerful that the line between work and play becomes meaningless, and everything feels like play.

No matter how much we want those things, no matter how much we have dreamed about having them, no matter how much we have invested in transforming ourselves ... just when we start to GO THERE, to have what we want, to get a taste for how things could be, the EGO MIND gets VERY scared.

Whether it's a relationship, a coaching program, moving to a new place, or some other radical shift in your life ... all too frequently ... the ego mind will tell you to quit EXACTLY at the moment when you are on the verge of success.

Why? Because the moment just before success can feel EXTREMELY uncomfortable. Sure, you wanted change, but are you really ready for it? When you have a million dollars in the bank, or an awesome relationship, EVERYTHING is going to change.

And the ego mind doesn't want that. It wants to preserve its small, anemic, "safe," reality. The ego mind sees true transformation as the death of its identity.

So it will try to talk you into quitting. And its reasons will sound very "logical" and convincing. The ego will talk you into breaking up with someone or into doing something that will trigger that person to break up with you. The ego will convince you to leave an amazing workshop mid-way through because you're "not getting your money's worth." It will convince you that you "can't afford" a workshop or program. It will tell you that the harsh criticism you just attracted from the outside world is "true," and that you really don't have what it takes to succeed, or that it's not worth the effort. And -- perhaps most devious of all -- when uncomfortable feelings get triggered, such as grief, rage, or irritability, the ego will talk you into blaming the other person and writing him or her off. Thus giving all of your power away.

All too often in my coaching I have seen a person get VERY uncomfortable, or a situation seemingly get WORSE, exactly at the moment when the person is about to have a MAJOR breakthrough to a new level of sexual success, intimacy, social success, or financial success. This often happens right around session number three, exactly when we are delving deep into the heart of the issue.

If you allow it to, the ego mind will persuade you to quit. This is your moment of truth. If you refuse to listen to the ego mind, if you stay committed, and if you stay present through all the discomfort that is being brought to the surface, you just may find yourself launched into a whole new AWESOME reality.

The moral of the story is this:

If you truly want transformation, DO NOT BE DECEIVED by the ego mind. It does not have your greater interests at heart.

Here are three ways I've developed to avoid being SABOTAGED by the ego mind.

1. Manage your own expectations.

If you are embarking on anything new and exciting, such as a new relationship or a new coaching program or a new path, PREPARE YOURSELF AHEAD OF TIME for the ego's pattern of sabotaging you exactly when you're about to succeed. When you understand how the ego works, you'll be less likely to go unconscious and heed its antics when you find yourself on the verge of a breakthrough. You'll be able to stay present through the uncomfortable feelings until you come out on the other side.

2. Learn to hear the difference between the ego and your higher self.

There are two voices in your head. The nagging, critical, loud and blaming voice of the ego mind. And the quiet, steady, intuitive wisdom of your higher self. Practice listening to the voices in your head until you can really hear the difference. Until you've become very practiced at hearing the difference, it can be easy to mistake the ego's voice for intuition. With practice, though, it becomes easy to tell them apart. Which voice you choose to follow will make ALL THE DIFFERENCE between a mediocre life and an AWESOME life.

(You can also tap away the egoic voice so thoroughly that it is rarely ever heard from anymore (this is what I do for myself and my clients, and it feels SO AMAZING when the ego's voice has finally been silenced -- to learn more go here).)

3. Make a commitment and stick with it.

There's a reason why I have changed my coaching program to all long-term programs, and that is that I have recognized the enormous power of commitment. Having a coach by your side every step of the way can be SO helpful for disarming the ego's attempts to derail your progress. It's usually right around the third session working with someone that they start to get deep enough into an issue to have their deepest fears triggered and start having doubts. But because we have both made a commitment ahead of time that we are not going to let the ego sabotage our efforts, we are able to work through that transitional discomfort -- and that's when the big breakthroughs and quantum leaps start happening!

I have started doing the same thing with my relationships, talking right at the beginning about how -- as we go deeper into intimacy -- we are both likely to have strong feelings get triggered. I like to have a mutual commitment ahead of time that we are going to stay connected through those feelings, and the rewards of this are HUGE. No matter how uncomfortable things might get in the short-term, relationships lived under this model are SO transformative and lead to quantum leaps in our capacity for intimacy and our spiritual growth. :)

"All of your relationships are total commitments."

Here's the takeaway for today: If you really want transformation in any area of your life, make a solid commitment today, prepare yourself for what the ego mind might do to derail your commitment, and make a solemn promise to yourself to stick to your commitment no matter what. No excuses.

I look forward to hearing about the radical breakthroughs that come to you when you make this commitment ... because they will start happening :)

I call them miracles. Miracles are your birthright.

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Thanks for reading, I'll talk to you soon. :)

Touch of sadness

I feel a touch of sadness tonight because we decided not to release that sexy little video.

The fear is that many people would not be able to hear my message if they saw the video because people have certain ideas about how teachers or coaches are "supposed to be." The fear is that the message won't have as much credibility unless it (and I) are packaged in line with certain expectations.

Seriously?

I feel sad about this because it feels in conflict with the substance of my message, which is to love and celebrate all parts of ourselves, and to express ourselves fully without censoring or holding back or trying to fit into some preconceived "image."

:-(